Talking about sex is difficult for some people, so they don’t bring up the subject of safer sex or STIs with their partners. But keep in mind that it’s your body, and it’s up to you to protect yourself.
Before having sex, it is a good idea to talk to your partner about their sexual behaviour and whether they have ever been tested for STIs. Remember to also talk about the importance of using condoms or dental dams during sex. Having the talk ahead of time can help you avoid misunderstandings during a moment of passion.
If your partner gives you an excuse, be ready with a response. Here are some ideas:
|If your partner says:||You might say:|
|“Trust me…I don’t have any infections.”||“It’s not about trust. Some people have STIs and don’t even know it because they have no symptoms. Using a condom will protect both of us.”|
|“Sex doesn’t feel as good with a condom.”||“Let’s try another brand or style.”|
|“Stopping to put on a condom spoils the mood.”||“I can’t enjoy sex if it’s not safe.”|
|“Let’s just do it this one time without a condom.”||“It only takes one time to get an STI.”|
|“I don’t have a condom with me.”||“That’s okay. I do!”|